Marriage

We aren't married yet, but living together has been a huge eye opener already. There's so much adjusting that comes with moving in with someone, but I already knew that. Living with roommates in college, there were issues as with anyone. Figuring out who does what chores, sharing responsibilities and combining different lifestyles. For the most part we live alike, but we are still getting used to each other. We are constantly learning new things about each other- how we like to keep things, our routines. It's kind of fun to learn these things about each other and I know we are nowhere near knowing everything. Ben likes the dishwasher loaded a certain way, and I like to keep the sink clear. I think sometimes we're both stubborn in our ways and we like to do things the way we like to and are used to doing them. But with marriage and living with someone, there's more adjusting and finding your new routines TOGETHER. It's been hard for me because with everything I gave up- my home, my job, routines, and then I'm facing all these new things. Most married couples move in together and face these same issues, but in addition to this I'm trying to learn a new city and find a job. I heard a quote about a month ago and it went something like this, "If life just got a little bit harder, it probably means you just leveled up." I keep repeating this to myself over and over again. Whenever I'm feeling overwhelmed I remind myself that its making me stronger and our relationship stronger. Welcome to marriage!